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Three Ways To Not Be Quitter

The process of change costs comfort. 
Change sacrifices comfort on the alter of progress, but change can be an investment in future awesomeness. 

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That’s what change means, the loss of comfort, or the embrace of discomfort. Whether you are losing weight, working on a relationship, changing something at work or taking on a new hobby, change can really be difficult to manage.

But the rewards of change can be incredible. 

Right now, I’m in a season of change as I lead the church God has called me to. We are a denominational congregation in a post-denominational world. The demographics around us have changed, the culture has shifted and the front doors haven’t had that magnetic pull in a couple of decades. 

The temptation at this point of the change process is to quit. Whenever I try and lose weight, I want to quit everytime I Girl Scout cookies realize that I can eat that box of Girl Scout cookies. Fasting is an exercise in not quitting, “I can eat now and always fast another time.” Relationship changes are really hard because it always means that you have to change, that you have to find a way to collaborate, sometimes in ways you have absolutely no idea where to start. Resistance sets in and makes things difficult. You start to second guess yourself and wonder if what you wanted to do is worth doing at all. 

But don’t quit. If you believe in what you are doing, hold on. Hold it down. Keep going. It’s difficult now, but it will be worth it. Here are three things to keep in mind to keep you from becoming a quitter.

Break Through happens right about the point of Break Down

Since we can’t see the future, we lose confidence in our ability to keep going. The truth is, right about the point you’re ready to give up, the resistance is about ready to give in. If you are feeling the strain of change, so are the people that the change affects. If you can hang in there, others will begin to see that even though the change is uncomfortable, it’s going to be good. Right about the time where you feel like breaking down, hang in there, in all likelihood you are about to break through!

Things get worse before they get better

light saber It’s always darkest before the dawn. The sun doesn’t rise in the middle of the day. Change makes people disoriented. We are creatures of habit and change rearranges the habits. A lot of times, change is a kind of death of an old way and the people going through it have to grieve before they can move on. In other words, if you are trying to move a BIG Vision forward that will make the world a better place and everyone will get to have their own light saber, there’s a funeral to ackknowedge first. The world before, where nobody had a light saber, has to die. Things at their worst often mean that better is right around the corner. 

If you don’t believe in it, no one will

Second guessing yourself is totally normal, but it won’t get you where you want to go. Do you believe in the change you are engineering? Do you believe in your vision? Do you believe that when the change happens things will be more like you know they need to be? If the answer is “yes” then don’t waver, don’t back down, don’t second guess. Because guess what? If you don’t believe in what you are doing, how can you expect anyone else to? That person IS going to come forward and tell you that you are messing everything up. They will. They always do. But believe! Become the CBO — Chief Believing Officer, the Boss of Belief. 

Will things change if you don’t change them? Is “the same” what you want? Is “the way things are” getting the results you are looking for? 

If you answered “no” to any or all of these questions then change is a necessary step to get you where you need go. 

So get ready, set, Don’t Quit!

  • Ketzirah

    Really nice post. Even what I think was an unintentional typo actually added resonance. Altar vs. Alter, but when you are writing about dealing with change it’s an interesting space to explore. I especially like the reminder that change doesn’t necessarily equal “quitting”.

    At least that’s what i read into this. :)

  • prophetsandpopstars

    Cool! I love it when someone like yourself comes along and makes the whole thing deeper. You are right. Alter and altar make for interesting word play any time. Thanks for leaving a comment, K.

  • sue kilpatrick

    Good thoughts and well said. You should lead/teach a class on achieving personal goals and changes.