perfectly real

Don’t Worry About Being Perfect. Be Real!

perfectly real

Perfectionism is not your friend.

As heard in the car when my wife and I were driving:
Wife: “It’s because of your delusions of perfection.”
Me:    “Thanks for not going with the softer ‘illusions’.”
Wife: “That’s because you are delusional.”

Hi! My name is Chris and I’m a perfectionist. I’ve heard that it’s another way that being a control freak can look. Don’t read that. No, do, but don’t remember it. I’m serious. Kidding…gosh. I’ve spent alot of time crushed by the anxiety of trying to do things “right.” Whoever you people are who get to determine “right,” what a great gig you have!

Do you ever feel like you’re constantly under the microscope? Constantly being judged? Constantly held up against some standard that can’t possibly exist in Reality Land? You’re not alone.

Recently, I’ve given up perfectionism in favor of something life giving. Something that rocks like Bon Jovi circa 1985. Something that would wear plastic duck lips if they looked a little less artifical: Being Real.

Perfect waits for things to be a success.
Real can handle it when things fail.

Perfect is always looking over their shoulder.
Real can look someone in the eye.

Perfect criticizes.
Real accepts.

Perfect has an answer for everything.
Real has a question for everyone.

Perfect craves everyone’s attention.
Real is OK if you’ve got something else to do.

Perfect leaves the room if someone sings off key.
Real hails them a cab.

Perfect tries to keep everyone happy.
Real understands sometimes people get mad.

Perfect makes excuses.
Real makes memories.

Perfect meets people.
Real builds relationships.

Perfect tries not to be offensive.
Real tries to be themselves.

Perfect is really far from perfect…
Real is, too.

You weren’t mean’t to be perfect. You were meant to be you…that’s real.
Be real, it’s the new authentic!

Leave a comment. 5th comment gets a pic of a Tony Hawk sticker sent to their social media inbox of choice (Who doesn’t want a picture of a sticker?.

  • Steve

    I LOVE how real this is!

  • Carrie Beurskens

    This hit home. Especially now, as I am trying to learn a new language and often times I worry about how I’ll be perceived if I don’t say some thing “perfectly.” I must remember to just try to be “real” In all aspects in my life… and also to study more.

  • Suelkilpatrick

    I think you are a “real” pastor, but perfect for what I need! Twist that around your brain!

  • prophetsandpopstars

    twisting now…

  • prophetsandpopstars

    Thanks for leaving a comment Carrie. Being real is a moment to moment commitment. I’m right there with you, sista.

  • prophetsandpopstars

    thank you G

  • Adam

    So. Good. Keep it real, home slice!

  • prophetsandpopstars

    Thanks Adam. I appreciate you taking time to comment AND for calling me home slice. 

  • Rachel Lindsay Jackson

    So, we’re family and you inherently knew I needed to hear this today. Separated by several states, but still connected. Thanks – the reminder to be REAL was especially poignant today.

  • prophetsandpopstars

    Last night I had this…”man, what does Rachel need to hear” feeling. Now I know why. Love you Cuz!!! and you are commenter number five. I’ll send you a picture of a tony hawk sticker, cause that’s how we roll here on this blog. Generosity and creativity, baby!