Clarify Your Role And Have Better Conversations

A pastor, a preacher and a leader get thrown in a blender…
While the cheering dies down, I’ll just keep typing.

21/52 - Who Are you?

Leaders aren’t just leaders.
We play a variety of specific roles in a given day.

A Role is a specific position that performs a defined duty or funtion.

Every day, I play about six different roles: Husband, Dad, Pastor, Preacher, Leader, Dude.
All of these are necessary and all have the potential to create lethal confusion.

When you are a leader in an organization, clear communication is crucial.

While there is a lot to be said about communication in leadership,
I’m going to focus on the power of defining your role when you engage conversation:
1. Know which role you are playing.
2. Know what is required of that role.
3. Be clear about what role you are in.

One key to clear communication is defining your role clearly.

Pastor.
In the 21st Century church, that means alot of things.
I see pastor as spiritual care and relational conciliation.

Preacher.
In the 21st Century church, this role is more ambiguous.
I see preacher as scripture interpreter, life observer, cultural translator and mystery marveler.
Where the four intersect is where the sermon comes from.

Leader.
I run a church, lead a staff, moderate a board of elders, set vision, paint big pictures and collect details.
As Reminder in Chief, I keep corporate memory focused on purpose, passion and direction.

Each of these roles changes what I speak about and the way I talk about it.
Each of these roles requires a different approach and focus.
Each of these roles has different time and energy requirements.

I’m learning that it’s important to say something like, “As a pastor, I believe that…”
or “I’m working on a sermon and would like to ask you…”
or “As the leader of this organization, I need to ask you to…”

When a member of our staff is looking to me as pastor and I make an organizational demand, it can create some tension and misunderstanding. When I am in leader mode and run into Sunday only attendees, it can be pretty disheartening for them. If I key in on something during a meeting that sounds like it will fit in sermon and interrupt the flow, those who look to me as leader can interpret that as disrespectful or flaky.

It’s really important to be clear about which role you are representing.
Make it clear.
Say it.

When we are mushy about our roles, that’s how it comes across.

Clarity instills confidence, creates comfort, strengthens trust and empowers conversations.

Get aware of which hat you are wearing, then show and tell.

  • http://twitter.com/SmackSmog S OBryan

    What about the other roles of Dad, Husband and Dude? Christian men need more about what’s it means to be a Christ Like Dude. 

  • prophetsandpopstars

    So right. So right!