On Monday, we looked at the first step to becoming like the only person on the planet that you can become…YOU. Today, we’ll look at why what others think about you is stopping you from being yourself.
Remember that dream where you are on a stage, naked,
in front of a standing room only auditorium?
It’s only me?
The anxiety that other people give us can be intense.
What will they think if I do this?
What will they think if I don’t?
What will they think if I’m not enough?
What will they think if I’m too much?
Seriously, what are they going to put you into “I don’t like you” jail?
#2. Stop caring about what other people think.
Every significant contribution to the world has had critics.
Critics who turned out to be wrong.
One of my favorite stories along this line is this one about John Bonham, drummer for a little band you might remember called Led Zeppelin: “By 16, he was playing in his first semi-professional band. While they were recording a demo, the sound engineer told Bonham that he played too loud and was unrecordable. Bonham later sent him a gold record with a snarky note saying, “Thanks for your advice.” via
The fact is, Bonzo DID play too loud. He hit those drums hard and Zeppelin would have never made it out the garage without him. His strength and too loud playing helped build the sound that defined them.
Naysayers say nay because they have no competing idea.
Critics cannibalize the criticism they have received
and regift it like a pair of Christmas Tree socks.
Don’t listen to that.
Surround yourself with voices that say, “THAT’S CRAZY! So crazy, it just might work.”
Surround yourself with people who value risk,
who have an appetite for creativity.
Surround yourself with people who don’t need you to prove yourself to them.
You don’t have to prove anything to anyone.
Anyone who says otherwise is looking for an excuse to feel powerful.
Here’s the truth:
Most people don’t spend any time at all thinking about anybody but themselves.
So why worry yourself thinking about what someone else thinks about you
when the truth is, they aren’t?
When you are up front speaking,
when you are handing in your script, your book, your paper
when you are doing whatever it is you do,
the person in front of you isn’t worried about you.
All they think is how what you are giving them, saying to them, doing for them…
relates to them.
If you want to become even more like yourself, take yourself off the alter.
Really…no one cares, except maybe your Mom.